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The Career Disappointers

 

VI. THE ALTERIOR EGO

A man gets into a car. When he gets to the first set of traffic lights, he rolls down the window and asks a driver in the next lane, “Excuse me, I’m out for a drive. Can you tell me where I should go?”

 

DEFINITION: The Alterior Ego is named by fusing two words – alter, meaning ‘other’, and ulterior, meaning ‘beyond what is seen or shown’. The Alterior Ego is the tendency to let oneself be controlled by what others think. Someone with an ‘ulterior motive’ acts in bad faith, according to some hidden agenda. Someone with an ‘alterior motive’ acts in bad faith also, but in this case the bad faith resides in the fact that the motive does not ultimately belong to them. A life dominated by the relentless effort to please, placate or impress others is a prolonged act of profound self-betrayal. The true engine of my Alterior Ego decisions – the internalised belief system of others – usually remains ulterior, hidden even to myself. This enables me to think of myself as an independent individual, all the while handing over my key life decisions to others.

DISAPPOINTER MODE: loss of personal autonomy and self-direction, timidity, obsession with what others think.

MOTTO: ‘I just can’t get you out of my head….’

APPOINTER MODE: openness to the views and input of others, capacity to see oneself objectively.

 

I.
THE FAULTER EGO
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II.
THE WALTER EGO
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III.
THE HALTER EGO
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IV.
THE ALTAR EGO
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V.
THE VAULTER EGO
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VI.
THE ALTERIOR EGO
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VII.
THE SALTER EGO
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VIII.
THE EXALTER EGO
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IX.
THE VOLTAIRE EGO
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